Kindness and Easter

No one has ever become poor by giving.” ―Anne Frank

This Easter will not be easy for me. It has been three years not speaking to my mother. And each year has been just fine celebrating Easter with my husband and son. My son has come home from university with friends who couldn’t get back themselves because of the distance with their families. The door has been open with us. We have also had good friends that come as well, but this year, they are in Florida.

My son has an important exam coming up after Easter, so it will be a quiet one for us. Continue reading “Kindness and Easter”

Divine Mother | Secrets

Denying the truth doesn’t change the facts

I am sitting having my coffee listening to my Reiki healing music. The song I am listening to is called, Divine Mother. I am in my living room and have just fed my dogs. Outside the snow is gently falling down. Mystical. I am thinking back to the last three years. It has been almost three years since my mother stonewalled me. Silence.

It was a betrayal, but she won’t see it that way. She will think I betrayed her because I wanted her to speak up and tell the truth about my brother. It never happened. And her silence hurt. I had to pick myself up—brush myself off—and start all over again. Continue reading “Divine Mother | Secrets”

Getting beyond the lies. You are worthy.

We accept the love we think we deserve. —Stephen Chbosky

I have recently pondered a very sad memory. My son played hockey for years.

I am the type of person to let people be. I am a very quiet person, and I trust a few. I am an observer. One time I was at the rink. There was a mother with her little 3-year-old child. The mother was very overweight, loud and opinionated.  Continue reading “Getting beyond the lies. You are worthy.”

The Heroes | The Ones that Help the Children

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
—Frederick Douglass

I haven’t written a blog post on attachment and how important it is. I have written about the “Attachment Theory” in my book, My Courage to Tell.

It’s an important piece of study. And probably the most important thing that we need to know. Why? A child needs to attach to feel secure. The less attachment, the more insecure a child feels. Continue reading “The Heroes | The Ones that Help the Children”

Singing! How it helps heal.

Singing gave me enormous confidence. I could stand on stage, and I had no fear. I was no longer that child hiding in my closet.

—My Courage To Tell

I read recently how much music has an effect on us. Some more than others. I know it did for me.

When I was in my 20s, I sang. It was a very important time in my life. I had come a long way from hiding in my closet when I was a child. Continue reading “Singing! How it helps heal.”

What is Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

If you are reading this, you may be interested in what CD and ODD are. First I want to very clear; I do not know if anyone in my family has a “disorder”. There has not been a diagnosis and I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist who can make these determinations.

Do I have my own suppositions? Yes. I certainly do. And I do not talk about those publically. I do talk about concerning behaviours that I have witnessed. And I leave each individual to make their own determination. We are all entitled to our own opinions. Continue reading “What is Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder?”

Trauma from Childhood: It’s a Slow Process

It’s Slow. But I am Healing!

As most of you know from following me and my blog, I have been dealing with C-PTSD, anxiety and panic attacks as a result of dealing with old buried trauma from my childhood. I am working through deep-rooted trauma from years ago.

So along with that, I need to realize that there are many changes going on in my life. When things go wrong, I start to feel anxiety and panic. Continue reading “Trauma from Childhood: It’s a Slow Process”