Divine Mother | Secrets

Denying the truth doesn’t change the facts

I am sitting having my coffee listening to my Reiki healing music. The song I am listening to is called, Divine Mother. I am in my living room and have just fed my dogs. Outside the snow is gently falling down. Mystical. I am thinking back to the last three years. It has been almost three years since my mother stonewalled me. Silence.

It was a betrayal, but she won’t see it that way. She will think I betrayed her because I wanted her to speak up and tell the truth about my brother. It never happened. And her silence hurt. I had to pick myself up—brush myself off—and start all over again. Continue reading “Divine Mother | Secrets”

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Grateful. Here’s why.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. —Denis Waitley

We just had our Canadian holiday; Family Day. My son had come home for reading week from University. He, my husband, my two rescue dogs and I, went for a walk.

We decided to go for a long one; 2-hours. Continue reading “Grateful. Here’s why.”

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Getting beyond the lies. You are worthy.

We accept the love we think we deserve. —Stephen Chbosky

I have recently pondered a very sad memory. My son played hockey for years.

I am the type of person to let people be. I am a very quiet person, and I trust a few. I am an observer. One time I was at the rink. There was a mother with her little 3-year-old child. The mother was very overweight, loud and opinionated.  Continue reading “Getting beyond the lies. You are worthy.”

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The Heroes | The Ones that Help the Children

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
—Frederick Douglass

I haven’t written a blog post on attachment and how important it is. I have written about the “Attachment Theory” in my book, My Courage to Tell.

It’s an important piece of study. And probably the most important thing that we need to know. Why? A child needs to attach to feel secure. The less attachment, the more insecure a child feels. Continue reading “The Heroes | The Ones that Help the Children”

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Singing! How it helps heal.

Singing gave me enormous confidence. I could stand on stage, and I had no fear. I was no longer that child hiding in my closet.

—My Courage To Tell

I read recently how much music has an effect on us. Some more than others. I know it did for me.

When I was in my 20s, I sang. It was a very important time in my life. I had come a long way from hiding in my closet when I was a child. Continue reading “Singing! How it helps heal.”

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What is Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

If you are reading this, you may be interested in what CD and ODD are. First I want to very clear; I do not know if anyone in my family has a “disorder”. There has not been a diagnosis and I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist who can make these determinations.

Do I have my own suppositions? Yes. I certainly do. And I do not talk about those publically. I do talk about concerning behaviours that I have witnessed. And I leave each individual to make their own determination. We are all entitled to our own opinions. Continue reading “What is Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder?”

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Trauma from Childhood: It’s a Slow Process

It’s Slow. But I am Healing!

As most of you know from following me and my blog, I have been dealing with C-PTSD, anxiety and panic attacks as a result of dealing with old buried trauma from my childhood. I am working through deep-rooted trauma from years ago.

So along with that, I need to realize that there are many changes going on in my life. When things go wrong, I start to feel anxiety and panic. Continue reading “Trauma from Childhood: It’s a Slow Process”

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Why do we minimize our abuse?

Why do we self-sabotage?

Ok, I don’t know why it is that we minimize our abuse. It is an interesting phenomenon.

I have written my book on bullying and psychological abuse. I met with psychologists who told me how important it was to tell my story.

I had learned that psychological abuse had long-term effects. I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder because of it. (It is actually Complex-PTSD, but it is not in the diagnostic manual. I have explained this in my book.) Continue reading “Why do we minimize our abuse?”

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Anti-Semitism is on the rise. This must stop!

In spite of all the terrible things that happened to me, I did not allow Hitler to make me feel less than human. I had been raised well and I knew who I was. My strategy was not to allow myself to hate. I knew I could be consumed by such hate.
― Jack Mandelbaum

I watched the news last night. I heard something alarming. “One-third” of Europeans have no knowledge of the Holocaust. I heard that one-tenth of Americans had no knowledge of it either.

Are you kidding me? Continue reading “Anti-Semitism is on the rise. This must stop!”

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Childhood emotional neglect (CEN)— harmful as physical abuse!

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
—Frederick Douglass

It’s harmful.

It is an invisible abuse.

Something not often talked about. But now science is telling us that it is just as harmful as physical abuse.

Oh yes—I think we need to listen to the medical professionals and experts in this field.

I like to research. And for many years I had no idea how this hidden abuse could be so harmful to people.

Childhood Emotional Neglect

Dr. Jonice Webb, author of Running on Empty No More states, “emotional neglect is the silent killer of a child’s spirit.” She also has said that children are born pre-wired with some very specific emotional needs. Dr. Webb has stated in her article, 7 Signs You Grew Up With Childhood Emotional Neglect, “Childhood Emotional Neglect is both simple in its definition and powerful in its effects. It happens when your parents fail to respond enough to your emotional needs while they’re raising you.”

That’s simple enough for me. I had one parent laugh while I was bullied and another who offered no protection because it was always, “You kids stop this nonsense.” Continue reading “Childhood emotional neglect (CEN)— harmful as physical abuse!”

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