Tickle Torture

There is a dark side to tickling

Before you read this post, I am going to tell you upfront – it may be triggering. This is a story about physical abuse and emotional abuse.

I was tickle tortured. Until I cried. When I complained, I was laughed at. I recently read a post (1988) by Ann Landers. She stated, “I have dealt with this problem before, but tickling is such a well-disguised form of torture that I feel it should be unmasked periodically. Tickling is NOT, repeat NOT, harmless fun. It is a subtle form of sadism.” Continue reading “Tickle Torture”

Please follow and like us:

Letter to my toxic sibling

To those who abuse: the sin is yours, the crime is yours and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victim only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest.

—Flora Jessop

We cannot be complicit. We must always take a stand.

Choosing to stay silent, is a choice. And it is not a good choice when it comes to witnessing bullying and abuse. It is abuse in an of itself. Continue reading “Letter to my toxic sibling”

Please follow and like us:

Adverse Childhood Experiences

The long-term effects of ACES

The recent headline of the article posted in The Guardian stated: How childhood stress can knock 20 years off your life.” 

Anyone who has experienced childhood abuse and neglect might want to know how it can affect them later on in life. The CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences Study2 is one of the largest examinations on child abuse and neglect. Continue reading “Adverse Childhood Experiences”

Please follow and like us:

Why do people believe abusers – even after found guilty?

Why do people believe abusers?

When I posted this excerpt (below) a few days ago, someone tweeted to me that he thought Bill Cosby was innocent. I blocked him. I just couldn’t get into a social media fight again.

There have been allegations on Bill Cosby since the mid-1960s. He was finally found guilty of his crimes.

Here is the history posted and written by the Los Angeles Times.

All those women. Were they all lying? Really? Continue reading “Why do people believe abusers – even after found guilty?”

Please follow and like us:

Psychological Abuse is Harmful!

Children who are emotionally abused and neglected face similar and sometimes worse mental health problems as children who are physically or sexually abused, yet psychological abuse is rarely addressed in prevention programs or in treating victims, according to a new study published by the American Psychological Association.

—American Psychological Association, 2014

This quote from the American Psychological Association is front and centre in Chapter 1 of My Courage to Tell.

Continue reading “Psychological Abuse is Harmful!”

Please follow and like us:

Gaslighting – Are You a victim?

What is Gaslighting?

Don’t pee on my leg, and tell me it’s raining

—Judge Judy

So many people ask me what Gaslighting is. I recently tweeted back to the person who asked, “I told you that in a previous tweet”. Then I said, “That’s Gaslighting.”

I had never sent a tweet before but was simply demonstrating what it can be like. Continue reading “Gaslighting – Are You a victim?”

Please follow and like us: