If you are reading this, you may be interested in what CD and ODD are. First I want to very clear; I do not know if anyone in my family has a “disorder”. There has not been a diagnosis and I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist who can make these determinations.
Do I have my own suppositions? Yes. I certainly do. And I do not talk about those publically. I do talk about concerning behaviours that I have witnessed. And I leave each individual to make their own determination. We are all entitled to our own opinions. Continue reading “What is Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder?”
It’s Slow. But I am Healing!
As most of you know from following me and my blog, I have been dealing with C-PTSD, anxiety and panic attacks as a result of dealing with old buried trauma from my childhood. I am working through deep-rooted trauma from years ago.
So along with that, I need to realize that there are many changes going on in my life. When things go wrong, I start to feel anxiety and panic. Continue reading “Trauma from Childhood: It’s a Slow Process”
Random Acts of Kindness
At this time of the year, I am deeply grateful for all that I have.
Christmas can be a tough time of year for a lot of people. I often think about Saint Nick—the man behind the story of Father Christmas. Little Laura has drawn her picture of Christmas. I have posted it in the masthead. Continue reading “Kindness at Christmas Time”
Why do we self-sabotage?
Ok, I don’t know why it is that we minimize our abuse. It is an interesting phenomenon.
I have written my book on bullying and psychological abuse. I met with psychologists who told me how important it was to tell my story.
I had learned that psychological abuse had long-term effects. I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder because of it. (It is actually Complex-PTSD, but it is not in the diagnostic manual. I have explained this in my book.) Continue reading “Why do we minimize our abuse?”
A poem to lift you up!
The holidays can be a very trying time. Especially Christmas.
This is the third Christmas that I have not seen or heard from my mother. But things are getting easier.
It has been a struggle, but I have risen above the madness.
Continue reading “Hope. Never lose hope.”
In spite of all the terrible things that happened to me, I did not allow Hitler to make me feel less than human. I had been raised well and I knew who I was. My strategy was not to allow myself to hate. I knew I could be consumed by such hate.
― Jack Mandelbaum
I watched the news last night. I heard something alarming. “One-third” of Europeans have no knowledge of the Holocaust. I heard that one-tenth of Americans had no knowledge of it either.
Are you kidding me? Continue reading “Anti-Semitism is on the rise. This must stop!”
Volunteering to help abused dogs has been one of my biggest accomplishments in life.
I have been blessed to work in different roles for a rescue organization. It is not about ego for me. It is about seeing neglected and abused animals come into the hands of wonderful and caring people and get rehabilitated to live successful lives. Maybe it’s therapeutic. I see it that way.
Getting calls from people surrendering a dog, arranging a behavioural analysis and finding a foster home was my first role. I enjoyed it greatly. After the dog was in foster care for a certain amount of time, it could be adopted out. I would cry hearing how the pups would travel home and live out the rest of their days in complete happiness and bliss. Continue reading “Volunteering in dog rescue: Zowie”
Rescue is part of my healing
Going to bed. Thousand kisses. Waking up. Thousand kisses. Bo, our latest rescue, is very grateful for his new life.
When my rescue cat passed away suddenly a few years ago, my husband and I were devastated. Buddy came from dire circumstances. I told my husband how much I needed to rescue another animal.
“I can’t. I just can’t handle it anymore,” James said. Buddy meant the world to him.
I guess I ignored my husband; I started looking for our next rescue right away. I thought that if I could find the right rescue mission, James’ heart would melt. Continue reading “My Rescue Story with Bo”
It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
It is an invisible abuse.
Something not often talked about. But now science is telling us that it is just as harmful as physical abuse.
Oh yes—I think we need to listen to the medical professionals and experts in this field.
I like to research. And for many years I had no idea how this hidden abuse could be so harmful to people.
Childhood Emotional Neglect
Dr. Jonice Webb, author of Running on Empty No More states, “emotional neglect is the silent killer of a child’s spirit.” She also has said that children are born pre-wired with some very specific emotional needs. Dr. Webb has stated in her article, 7 Signs You Grew Up With Childhood Emotional Neglect, “Childhood Emotional Neglect is both simple in its definition and powerful in its effects. It happens when your parents fail to respond enough to your emotional needs while they’re raising you.”
That’s simple enough for me. I had one parent laugh while I was bullied and another who offered no protection because it was always, “You kids stop this nonsense.” Continue reading “Childhood emotional neglect (CEN)— harmful as physical abuse!”
There is a dark side to tickling
Before you read this post, I am going to tell you up front – it may be triggering. This is a story about physical abuse and emotional abuse.
I was tickle tortured. Until I cried. When I complained, I was laughed at. I recently read a post (1988) by Ann Landers. She stated, “I have dealt with this problem before, but tickling is such a well-disguised form of torture that I feel it should be unmasked periodically. Tickling is NOT, repeat NOT, harmless fun. It is a subtle form of sadism.” Continue reading “Tickle Torture”