The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they induce in the way a developing child will continue to interpret the world and her situation in it. —Dr. Gabor Mate Attachment Theory It is easier to build strong children than to repair […]
Instead of promoting healthy development, they unconsciously undermine it, often with the belief that they are acting in their child’s best interest. —Dr. Susan Forward Getting beyond the lies. You are worthy. I have recently pondered a very sad memory. My son played hockey for years. I am the type of person to let people […]
Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. —Denis Waitley We just had our Canadian holiday; Family Day. My son had come home for reading week from University. He, my husband, my two rescue dogs and I, went for a […]
Singing gave me enormous confidence. I could stand on stage, and I had no fear. I was no longer that child hiding in my closet. —My Courage to Tell Singing! I read recently how much music has an effect on us. Some more than others. I know it did for me. When I was in […]
With insecure attachments, a child unwittingly memorizes the precise lesson of that troubled relationship: that love is suffocation, that anger is terrifying, that dependence is humiliating, or one of a million crippling variations. —Peg Streep Denying the truth doesn’t change the facts I am sitting having my coffee listening to my Reiki healing music. The […]
No one has ever become poor by giving. —Ann Frank Being a Giver Easter holidays are not easy for me. It has been a few years not speaking to my mother. And each year has been just fine celebrating holidays with my husband and son. My son has come home from university with friends who […]
Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for. —Zig Ziglar Gratitude is important for our mental health! I am sitting by my waterfall listening to some piano music. It is worship music. I am […]
Scientists believe that the major source of people’s positive reactions to pets comes from oxytocin, a hormone whose many functions include stimulating social bonding, relaxation and trust, and easing stress. Research has shown that when humans interact with dogs, oxytocin levels increase in both species. —The Washington Post The Traumatized Brain I’ve been off social […]
It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. —Frederick Douglass Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) | Harmful as physical abuse! It’s harmful. It is an invisible abuse. Something we often do not talk about. But now science is telling us that it is just as harmful as physical abuse. Oh yes—I think […]
Survivors of atrocity of every age and every culture come to a point in their testimony where all questions are reduced to one, spoken more in bewilderment than in outrage: Why? The answer is beyond human understanding.” ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence–From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror No more […]
